Archive for February 2019

How to leave an abusive relationship

This 30 minute documentary describes the dangers and the issues that women leaving abusive relationships face.

It offers a guide to how a survivor of domestic abuse/violence can plan to leave a relationships and the reality of the challenges that this decision can bring.

If you are in an abusive relationship or you are unsure about how safe your relationship is, watch it; as long as it is safe for you to do so.

The programme contains advice from an IDVA, a therapist, a refuge manager, a GP, a specialist police officer and a victim support manager.

Please call the Police on 999 if you are at risk of immediate danger.

Or for information about options available to you call the
24-hour National Domestic Violence
Freephone Helpline 0808 2000 247

Look at the Get Help section of this website for other services.

Please keep yourself safe


Refuge Valentine’s Day poem

Valentine's Day Poem

My lover, my husband

Please take the time to read this poem and then read it from the bottom to the top; the poem was created for Refuge by advertising agency McCann Bristol,
It is a chilling reminder of how controlling behaviour and violence can manifest itself.



Freephone 24-Hour National Domestic Violence Helpline: 0808 2000 247

If you at risk of immediate harm please call the Police on 999


Abused by my girlfriend – the story of Alex Skeel

In this documentary, Alex shares his experiences of domestic abuse and violence; he was told that he was 10 days away from death when he was helped by the Police and paramedics. His abuser, his girlfriend, was sentenced to 7 and a half years for coercive controlling behaviour and grievous bodily harm.

18th February 2019 BBC 3 (online via BBC iPlayer) and repeated again on BBC 1 on 19/02/2019 at 10:45 pm

Abused by My Girlfriend tells the remarkable story of Alex Skeel, a 23-year-old man from Bedford who survived an abusive relationship with his girlfriend Jordan Worth.


By sharing his story, Alex hopes to challenge assumptions about violence and masculinity in relationships, and to empower victims of domestic violence to come forward.

Domestic Abuse in the media

Channel 5 is currently running a series of documentaries about young women who have been murdered by their stalker ex-partners.



Episode one is about the brutal murder of  Mollie McClaren who was murdered by her ex partner, two weeks after she ended the relationship. She was 23 years old when she was stabbed repeatedly 75 times.

Episode two is about the equally brutal murder of Hollie Gazzard who was murdered by her ex partner in 2014; she was 20 and was  stabbed repeatedly outside the hair salon where she worked.







Stalking is a crime and should be reported; if you or someone you know has  been affected by any of the issues in Stalked: Murder In Slow Motion, please contact one of the below websites for help and guidance.

The National Stalking Helpline


The National Stalking Helpline is run by Suzy Lamplugh Trust. Call the helpline on 0808 802 0300

They can help you by giving you information and guidance on topics including:

  • The law in relation to stalking and harassment in the United Kingdom
  • Reporting stalking or harassment
  • Effective gathering of evidence
  • Ensuring your personal safety and that of your friends and family
  • Practical steps to reduce the risk

Network for Surviving Stalking


They offer advice and information to people affected by stalking; enabling early recognition and the opportunity to seek help. Network for Surviving Stalking, alongside Protection Against Stalking and Suzy Lamplugh Trust, was a founding partner of the National Stalking Helpline in 2010.

Protection Against Stalking


The vision of Protection Against Stalking is to change society’s perception of stalking, to improve the safety for all victims of stalking and harassment and for perpetrators to be held to account by the Criminal Justice System.

Paladin National Stalking Advocacy Service


Paladin is a trauma-informed service established to assist high risk victims of stalking in England and Wales.

Reporting a stalker


Scared of Someone (Network for Surviving Stalking)



If you are in immediate danger please call the Police on 999

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