Domestic Abuse in LGBTQ+ Relationships

It is important to us that all survivors of domestic abuse are provided with appropriate and tailored support in order to rebuild their lives, and we recognise that LGBTQ+ people face additional barriers to accessing support for domestic abuse.

There are some aspects of domestic abuse that are unique to LGBTQ+ individuals and communities:

  • LGBTQ+ survivors have experienced having their sexuality and gender identity used against them, enabling the abusive partner to maintain power and control.
  • LGBTQ+ survivors have reported being threatened and intimidated by a partner or ex; to disclose their sexuality or gender identity to family, friends, colleagues and others.
  • LGBTQ+ survivors have reported that they have been manipulated to think that society believes domestic abuse as happening in heterosexual relationships only and therefore it cannot happen to them.
  • Trans survivors are one of the most hidden groups of domestic abuse victims.
  • Trans survivors have reported partners/families deliberately using the ‘deadname’ or wrong pronoun.
  • Trans survivors have been forced to behave as though they are a gender that they do not want to be.
  • Trans survivors have been coerced into not having gender transition or having hormones and medical treatment denied them by a partner or an ex.
  • Trans survivors have been assaulted on medically altered body parts or surgical scars have been exposed.
  • LGBTQ+ survivors have reported that a partner or an ex has pressured them into believing that they deserve the abuse and that there is no help available to them because of their gender identity or sexuality.

More information on domestic abuse within LGBTQ+ relationships can be found in our Relationships Shouldn't Hurt podcast episode Domestic Abuse and LGBTQ+ Relationships and transcript.

LGBTQ+ Terms and Definitions

Sexual orientation and gender identity terms reflect the definitions provided by Stonewall (, which have been accepted and used by Galop across its services and programs.

Not Broken, Not Silent

Galop, the LGBTQ+ anti-violence charity, have developed 5 short films, #NotBrokenNotSilent​, so that every LGBTQ+ survivor knows that they aren’t alone, that there is hope, and there is help.

The film below focuses on intimate partner sexual violence, as experienced by LGBTQ+ people in a same-sex relationship.

To view the other films in this series, please click here.

Support and Resources

GALOP the anti violence charity for LGBTQ+

GALOP runs the only National LGBTQ+ Domestic Abuse Helpline 0800 999 5428. Visit the website where there are factsheets for victims/survivors and support details

56 Dean Street

56 Dean Street are an expert sexual health clinic in London who focus on the needs of the LGBTQI+ community.